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Are you Dying to Live?

The ultimate reality is that death is the one universal things we will all experience. The fact that our life is perishable makes it precious.

Are you treating your life — and the other people in it ― as precious? If you died today, what type of evidence would be left behind? Would it show that you engaged life at the 100% level or that you just plodded through? Would excuses be written on your headstone?

So many individuals engage life at half-throttle, with a little will, ambition, impact, or contribution. They blame others for their life circumstances and believe their situation is all other people’s fault.

If you embrace this belief, you have relinquished your life’s direction ― and your outcomes — to others. Individuals who consistently play the victim end up as persecutors: blaming, justifying, and complaining about their lot in life.

Do you know people who complain about their lives but who aren’t willing to do anything about it? What a powerless, weak position.

If something happened to you today, would you feel satisfied that you had done your best? What have you put off for weeks, months, or years ― just?because? What is on your?unfinished or not-started list?

Most of us will get wake-up calls in our life to confirm whether we are truly living at 100%. Here is one of mine.

I recall many years ago standing outside the ER door, tears dripped all over my cell phone as I called my family to inform them what was happening. At that very moment, my 9-year-old son’s life was in danger.

He had been sick for three days and it had become obvious he had more than the flu. We had taken him to the clinic, where the doctor instructed us to go to Emergency at once. Tim was being brave but became more and more listless as he started to have severe pain.

The attending surgeon confirmed it was his appendix. Concerned it had already or almost burst, the surgeon ordered immediate surgery. It went well but Tim’s appendix had already begun to abscess. Poison from the appendix or infection causes the greatest risk. For over 48 hours at the hospital, we watched over him, concerned that more complications could arise.

Tim now 25, fully recovered but events like that still drive my commitment to live a life?full on!

Many people don’t live?full-on?because they have not been able to clarify what is most important for them. They may have been living their life through other people’s eyes or expectations and they’ve been burdened by confusion.

If that applies to you, we have a solution.

My purpose is to help others find their purpose and live their life full-on. To do this, an individual must be clear about his or her values, health, personal strengths, and levels of self-confidence.

Life is finite and fragile. Are you making the most of your life??
Is there evidence you are dying to live??
If not, what are you going to do about it?

CRG has created a brand new ecourse?The Quest For Purpose?where we take you or others you know who could benefit on a step-by-step journey to clarify your why, who, and what you want to be and do. This is not self-centered buy self-honoring.

Action Steps

Dying to Live

  1. Is there enough evidence to prove you are dying to live?
  2. If I asked your friends how you live your life and to assess your attitude toward your life, what would they say?
  3. If you died today, would you feel you had contributed to your life at 100%?
  4. If the answer to the last three questions is not what you want it to be, what needs to change?
  5. Make a list of all the things you’ve been wanting to do, but have put off for whatever reason.
  6. Review the list and challenge yourself to see if you really, want to achieve the things you have listed. Sometimes we can outgrow a desire or discover it was never our real desire in the first place.
  7. Register for The Quest For Purpose course and begin the transformation of your life and those around you.
  8. Don’t wait until a loved one is ill or you get sick. Wake up to the precious and perishable nature of life. Do it now ― so that everyone you meet knows you are dying to live!

Until next time, keep?Living On Purpose!.

 

Ken Keis

New Wellness eCourse!

Dying To Live: Breakthrough Stress Reduction & Wellness Strategies

A full online learning experience and ecourse based on the Stress Indicator & Health Planner. This is based on our half day live workshop converted to the online format just for you.

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Maturity–Don’t Leave Home Without it! http://www.mboc.com.cn/maturity/ Mon, 23 Nov 2020 22:33:53 +0000 http://www.mboc.com.cn/?p=11041 The post Maturity–Don’t Leave Home Without it! appeared first on CRG - Consulting Resource Group.

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Maturity–Don’t Leave Home Without it!

What is maturity–really?

To define maturity, it’s helpful to describe the opposite or immaturity.
The immature person

  • is too quick to act;
  • is too slow to act;
  • is inappropriate in his or her reactions;
  • is unwise in his or her choices;
  • acts confused:
  • lacks confidence in him or herself;
  • is arrogant;
  • has intentions that don’t match actions or outcomes;
  • plays to peer pressure, instead of what’s right.

Just over 30 years ago, I began my professional speaking and consulting career. As a new member of the National Speakers Association in 1988, I was excited to hear the new strategies to grow my emerging business.

What I did?not?like to hear were suggestions from some individuals that a speaker only started to come into his or her own in their 40s. I rejected such limiting thoughts and ideas.

Anthony Robbins made it in his late 20s and early 30s. Certainly, I could, too. I did not need to be 40 to make an impact. After all, I had met many 40-year-olds who were no more mature at 40 than they had been when they were 20. (Some people will go through their entire life, never maturing beyond their younger years.)

Now that I am 60, I must admit that, for the most part, those speakers were correct. I see that my immaturity was negatively responding to those early comments.

What were the speakers really saying? Life experience, over time, is required for maturity to ground itself in our lives. There simply is no replacement.

Is maturity a redeeming quality?

The answer is a resounding?YES!

Think about it. I am going to send you on a business trip to meet with a potential client who is very high profile. You can choose a colleague to take with you: a seasoned, articulate, mature individual or a high-energy, exuberant, off-the-wall immature team member.

Which team member do you prefer to take?

Most would select the mature person, not because of age but because of confidence, predictability, and wisdom. The fact is that the immature team member is a risk to the business relationship and to the sale. Because the latter lacks maturity, he is unaware of the unfavorable impact his behavior has on important relationships.

What about you?

Would others consider you mature or immature in your conduct?

Maturity is an attractive quality.
Immaturity is not.

  • The mature person recognizes that the more they learn, the more they know they don’t really know a lot. This is where confidence and humility combine.
  • The mature person makes decisions and stands by them. They are not swayed by public opinion and peer pressure.
  • The mature person is not intimidated by conflict or unpleasant situations. He understands that that is part of life.
  • The mature person does what they say they will do.
  • The mature person is patient. They will forfeit immediate pleasure for long-term gain.

Maturity does not mean you live life without fun.

It means you are aware of which actions will be perceived as appropriate—while you live your life?on purpose.

Action Steps

Maturity–Don’t Leave Home Without it!

  1. What would others say about you: are you mature or immature?
  2. Are you happy with your level of maturity in this stage of your life? Yes or No?
  3. If your maturity level is lower than it could be, what has this cost you in lost credibility and effectiveness with others?
  4. What type of people are your friends and colleagues? Do they model the maturity and character that is reflective of what you would like to become?
  5. What three things could you do to increase your maturity level and thinking?
  6. Mature individuals know who they are and where they are going. Their high self-awareness reveals their strong levels of self-confidence. How conscious are you in these areas?
  7. Being mature does not mean you give up fun and spontaneity. In fact, quite the opposite is true.
  8. To assist in your journey of increasing your level of maturity, I am recommending the following CRG resources.
  • Know where you are going by considering our book or new ecourse?The Quest For Purpose?which provides you a roadmap and processes to confirm what is most important to you?in all areas of your life.
  • To identify your natural preferences and strengths, complete the http://www.mboc.com.cn/personal-style-indicator/ Personal Style Indicator.
  • To clarify your core values, complete the?Values Preference Indicator.
  • To understand how your level of self-worth is affecting your success, complete the?Self-Worth Inventory.
  • Finally, to determine how your lifestyle is influencing your stress and wellness levels, complete the?Stress Indicator and Health Planner.9. Maturity is humble, grounded, centered, and confident—all in the same breath. Decide today that you are part of this astute group.

Until next time, keep?Living On Purpose!

 

Ken Keis

New Wellness eCourse!

Dying To Live: Breakthrough Stress Reduction & Wellness Strategies

A full online learning experience and ecourse based on the Stress Indicator & Health Planner. This is based on our half day live workshop converted to the online format just for you.

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If I Wanted Your Opinion, I Would Have Asked for It http://www.mboc.com.cn/if-i-wanted-your-opinion-i-would-have-asked-for-it/ Mon, 16 Nov 2020 23:56:03 +0000 http://www.mboc.com.cn/?p=10673 The post If I Wanted Your Opinion, I Would Have Asked for It appeared first on CRG - Consulting Resource Group.

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If I Wanted Your Opinion, I Would Have Asked for It

What would your life or business look like if you changed it to fit everyone′s (in many cases unsolicited) opinions? You certainly would not be living your purpose.

Over the years, I have had the pleasure of speaking to hundreds of groups across the globe. In every session, individuals have their opinions on the content and style of my presentation. Some are very positive; others are not as much.

In life, especially if you are in the public eye or if you are the least bit controversial, some people will disagree with you. In fact, I would argue that if everyone likes you, you are not challenging them enough.

The highest-paid experts are hired because their clients can count on them to state their position and not be swayed by popular beliefs or differing professional opinions.

About 20 years ago, I stopped using participant-evaluation forms with a numeric 1-to-10 measuring format and any mention of the lunch or the facility. I found that a percentage, ranging from 5% to 25% of the group, was more interested in the lunch than the content. Sorry, the session was about sales, leadership, living?on purpose, and so on. The lunch has nothing to do with the behavioral transformation!

Research confirms that no matter what a presenter or speaker does, 5% of the participants will dislike him or her. The reality is that many people have baggage and they will carry it with them to your presentation. The issue is not about you—it′s about them.

For example, as an expression of our corporate values, CRG periodically offers one of our programs to a nonprofit community group. We had the opportunity to work with mid-managers from various organizations who are part of an initiative to take leadership into their community.

Unfortunately, the group′s original speaker cancelled his engagement less than 72 hours before the event. That′s when we got the call. We responded to their last-minute request and donated our time.

The presentation went well and feedback was positive, except for a couple of individuals′ hateful remarks about the session.

That was disappointing. Ironically, the purpose of that group is to develop leadership by encouraging citizens to become fully engaged, while embracing diversity. Now, who would want to follow people who display vicious, juvenile conduct?! This seems to be the character of the cancel culture crowd.

What type of person posts vile comments? Usually shallow individuals who lack self-confidence and who typically are not very successful.

My point is this: No matter who you are or what you do, unsolicited opinions and comments that have no merit will be offered. They should be completely ignored. That includes “well-meaning” family members and friends who are judging the way you should run your life or business.

Unless the advisor has a track record of success in the exact area you need, why would you listen? Here are some examples.

  • Someone who has no children tells you how to parent.
  • An individual who has had no success in investing tells you how to invest your money.
  • A career counselor who dislikes his or her job is counseling you on how to live your life?on purpose.
  • A person who has never been successful in business tells you how you should run your company.
  • An average or below-average sales rep tells the sales superstar how to improve his/her sales performance.
  • An individual who has never supervised others tells you how to lead a team.

The list goes on . . .

In the end, you must live your own life. Don′t let dysfunctional individuals or uninformed family and friends inject their opinions into your space. Be respectful, but just say No.

That′s why I stopped seminar evaluations. The only feedback I need is from the decision-maker who invested in the session.

Unless you are one of my trusted advisors, I am not interested in your opinion about my presentations. After 32 years and 3000 presentations, I know myself. I have my own personal style and I am not going to change—nor should you—just because a minority did not like something.

Of course, there are some exceptions, such as feedback from individuals in authority at work and those you trust the most. Even then, make sure you are not being forced to be someone you are not—or expected to compromise your values in favor of another person.

I encourage everyone to stand in your personal and professional space with confidence. You can choose to seek wisdom from others but you must be watchful of the qualifications of your sources.

When you are confident and clear about who and what you are, others′ opinions will no longer impact you. You don′t need validation because you are secure in yourself. And negative feedback will not take you out.

CRG′s?purpose?is to help you establish and confirm who and what?YOU?desire in life. With all its resources, CRG contributes to individuals, families, teams, and organizations to help them live and work?on purpose.

Take the Action Steps below.

Action Steps

If I Wanted Your Opinion, I Would Have Asked for It

  1. Are you completely clear about what is important to you, in all areas of your life? If not, what do you need to confirm?
  2. Have you allowed unsolicited opinions from unqualified individuals to influence your life and business? If Yes, why do you think you have allowed that to happen?
  3. What has listening to others′ ill-considered opinions cost you in terms of direction, confidence, and success?
  4. Decide this moment that you will not allow ignorant opinions into your personal or professional space. What do you need to change or shift to achieve that objective?
  5. The reality is that if you stand for?anything, someone will disagree. If you never have anyone disagreeing with you, are you living authentically or are you simply trying to please others?
  6. Feedback is an important part of growth; proactively select your group of advisors to make sure they have a proven track record of success in the area where you seek counsel. Make sure these individuals will tell you the truth—not just what you want to hear.
  7. Set an objective that you will take the necessary steps to mature to a level where the opinions of others do not matter.
  8. To assist your personal journey of confirming what is important to you so you are not sidetracked by other opinions, I recommend the following CRG resources.
  • Know where you are going with my book The Quest For Purpose and the support online course. This provides you the roadmap and processes to confirm what is most important to you?in all areas of your life.
  • To understand how your level of self-worth is affecting your success, complete the?Self-Worth Inventory.
  • Finally, to determine how your lifestyle is influencing your stress and wellness levels, complete the?Stress Indicator and Health Planner.
  • Your life or business is your own to live.

Keep Living On Purpose,

 

Ken Keis

New Wellness eCourse!

Dying To Live: Breakthrough Stress Reduction & Wellness Strategies

A full online learning experience and ecourse based on the Stress Indicator & Health Planner. This is based on our half day live workshop converted to the online format just for you.

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The Benefits of Balance http://www.mboc.com.cn/the-benefits-of-balance/ Tue, 10 Nov 2020 18:24:13 +0000 http://www.mboc.com.cn/?p=10670 The post The Benefits of Balance appeared first on CRG - Consulting Resource Group.

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The Benefits of Balance

Balance: a state of equilibrium, steadiness of the body or emotions

Living a balanced life can be challenging but, many times, our thinking―not events themselves―can cause a perceived imbalance.

Let me explain. In the past, teachings or authors had you separate your life into work and personal life, plus many other subsections. Even though those authors were well-meaning, their strategies put another layer of?rules?and?shoulds?into your already busy life.

And how do you separate your life into subsections when all the elements of your life are interrelated? I would like to suggest that we don’t have work, health, and personal life; we simply have a life—period. Rather than living your life by rules and arbitrary benchmarks, let me suggest a more common-sense approach to this elusive thing called balance.

What does it mean to live a balanced life? Who gets to decide what is balanced and what is not? Despite all the external pressures and recommendations, YOU are the only one who truly can evaluate whether you have balance in your life.

To do that, you must get rid of some “shoulds.”?Shoulds?are statements such as?you?should work out;?you?should spend X amount of time with your family;?you?should do X amount of volunteer work?. . . and on it goes. To achieve true personal balance, you will need to give up the?shoulds.

Please note that unless you take life balance seriously, your fulfillment and enjoyment of life can be gravely impaired. In fact, work-related stress is costing companies billions in worker absenteeism every year.

Research says that over 25% of the North American population is working more than 50 hours a week. My contrarian comment??What’s your point?!

Who said that 50 or 60 hours are too many or that 40 hours are better?

Admittedly, constant time pressures with no schedule flexibility will stress even the most seasoned individual. But if we are all so busy, how can North Americans watch 5 plus hours of TV or being on social media (non-work related) every day?

The issue is much more complex and deeper than the hours you work per week. Life balance has way more to do with?what?you are doing and?how much you love?what you are doing. Hey, if you hate what you are doing, 10 hours a week is too many and will completely mess up your equilibrium (life balance).

When we try to separate work from our “life,” that suggests we are working for something other than the joy of doing our work. If we work for the sole purpose of earning the right to do something else other than work, balance becomes very difficult to achieve.

I must confess to being biased about the workweek. I grew up on a dairy farm. My parents worked 10 to 12 hours a day for 14 years without a single day off. Yes, that’s right—14 years. So, when I came home from college wanting one day off every 14 days, my request did not go over well.

My parents felt they had balance. Yes, they would have liked some days off but, overall, they enjoyed their lifestyle.

Balance (feeling emotionally stable) comes from loving what you do. Mother Teresa spent 10 to 14 hours a day with orphans and the less fortunate. If she were here today, would she say she had life balance? Yes!

I worked 50 to 60 hours a week, sometimes more, for years, but I would have felt unbalanced with anything less. My work is my life. It represents my values, passions, purpose, and talents. It is my contribution to others. When I am engaging my purpose, I feel balanced.

What about you? Does what you do in life contribute to your purpose and therefore support your balance?

When I am asked if I have a hobby, I say my work and my motorcycle. That confuses some people. Just today as I write this – I was asked to be a presenter to a business mentoring group. I was ecstatic and honored to be asked. This is energizing for me and must be present for me to feel balanced. Some might think I?should?be golfing or sailing or taking part in other outdoor activities for relaxation. I do have other interests like motorcycling but fulfilling my purpose to help others is equally as rewarding.

Balance has many aspects. Some people who have a job and family spend 40 hours a week on the golf course. Does that seem balanced?

True life balance is based on rational principles and guidelines, not guilt feelings for all the things you think you?should?be doing. A key factor that contributes to imbalance is the lack of discretionary time. If your schedule keeps you busy from dawn to dusk, you won’t feel balanced.

Life has ebbs and flows. We need to listen to our bodies, minds, and hearts and do what is needed at the time. A full schedule does not permit that. On the other hand, if nothing is scheduled and your life completely happens by accident, the urgent will override the important, thus making it more difficult to achieve balance.

So how do you strike balance into your life’s equation? Schedule the most important items first—the items that are non-negotiable life balancers for you, no matter what, such as time alone with a family, playing, staying healthy, etc.

Make sure you have discretionary time to be and do things that make you feel balanced. Research shows that you do need to take time off to rejuvenate, reflect, and to enjoy. The amount of time you need is up to you.

True balance comes from living your values in all aspects of your life—and guess what? You can choose what they are for you. Embrace the balance principles that represent a balanced life for you, so you have more wins than losses―more balanced days and weeks than unbalanced ones.

To help you in your journey this week, I recommend that you consider some processes to help you.?The?Stress Indicator and Health Planner?(recently completely updated and revised) will assist you to determine how balanced you really are. The?SIHP?will help you outline how to improve your life balance today. There is a full ecourse supporting this assessment

Use it with the?Values Preference Indicator?to confirm your real values and see whether you are actually living them. If you are not, we know you are feeling imbalance and stress. Again a full ecourse supports this assessment.

Finally, complete the?Personal Style Indicator?so you can embrace your uniqueness and intentionally identify the environments that will bring balance into your life. Or engage the online course that supports this content.

In the end, you get to decide what makes you feel balanced. After all, it is your life!

Action Steps

The Benefits of Balance

  1. Our lives are not separated into work and personal subsections. We are all simply living a life.
  2. Balance in your life is ultimately determined by you—not others.
  3. Do you feel that you have balance in your life? If not, why not?
  4. Increase your feeling of balance by removing the?shoulds?in your life.
  5. What?shoulds?are causing you guilt? List them now.
  6. Change your?shoulds?to the life principles and guidelines that represent balance in your life. Clarify what balance REALLY means to you. Describe it in detail.
  7. Hours of work per week do not determine balance. Passion, purpose, and fulfillment do. You make the call. Is your work working for you?!
  8. Balance requires discretionary, unscheduled time. If you have none, change your schedule.
  9. Balance comes from living your values and playing to your strengths. To confirm them and provide a road map for balance, complete the Stress Indicator and Health Planner,?Values Preference Indicator, and the?Personal Style Indicator?assessment or take the online course that supports that assessment.
  10. Achieving balance in your life is not a constant. Your degree of balance will likely shift and change over your lifetime. To meet your needs, pay attention to your balance requirements. Just do it.

Until next time, keep?Living On Purpose!

 

Ken Keis

New Wellness eCourse!

Dying To Live: Breakthrough Stress Reduction & Wellness Strategies

A full online learning experience and ecourse based on the Stress Indicator & Health Planner. This is based on our half day live workshop converted to the online format just for you.

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Success is Only Six Degrees of Separation Away http://www.mboc.com.cn/success-is-only-six-degrees-of-separation-away/ Tue, 10 Nov 2020 00:45:06 +0000 http://www.mboc.com.cn/?p=10624 The post Success is Only Six Degrees of Separation Away appeared first on CRG - Consulting Resource Group.

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Success is Only Six Degrees of Separation Away

We can all get so busy . . . rushing to the next appointment, meeting the next potential client, trying to figure the best person to see to resolve both our personal and business needs.

But, alas, perhaps we’ve got it all wrong. Could there be a better strategy than a frantic chaotic approach or even a frozen state where you don’t know where to start or to whom to talk? I believe the answer is Yes.

Is it possible the reason we are missing or not finding opportunities is that we are not acknowledging the power of the principle of Six Degrees of Separation? (I’ll explain that in a moment.)

Let’s stop to think and consider: isn’t the best place to start?where you are??― meaning what happened to intentionally networking with the people you already know versus trying to connect with individuals and organizations you don’t. Because, after all, those you already know can link you to everyone you don’t!

What is “the Six Degrees of Separation”?

You may have heard that everyone on Earth is separated from everyone else by no more than six degrees of separation or six friends of friends of friends.

The concept of six degrees of separation emerged from an experiment conducted by social psychologist Stanley Milgram in 1967. Milgram asked volunteers to send a package by mail to one of a hundred people chosen at random. The package had to arrive, however, from someone who personally knew the individual. He verified that most of us are no more than six contacts away from a target person, group, or organization.

The implications go farther than we think, but I’ll get to that in a moment. For you doubters, here is some additional research.

The concept was re-confirmed by Duncan Watts and colleagues at Columbia University in New York by conducting a massive email experiment to test the theory of Six Degrees of Separation ― everyone in the world can be linked through just six social ties. More than 60,000 people from 166 countries took part in the experiment. Participants were assigned one of 18 target people. They were asked to contact that person by sending email to people they already knew and that they considered potentially “closer” to the target. Chosen at random, the targets included a professor from America, an Australian policeman, and a veterinarian from Norway.

For everyone reading this article, I want to emphasize the next finding. The researchers were surprised to discover that message chains did not rely on a few highly connected individuals — so-called “hubs.” Previous research by Watts and fellow Cornell mathematician Steven Strogatz had suggested that such hubs were important to all social chains. So there’s no reason to despair if you are not part of the social elite of networking.

The researchers found that in most cases, it took between five and seven emails to contact the target. In this research, the medium used was email; most people, however, knew the individuals personally — outside the online world ― meaning high tech does not replace high touch. Watts says this shows that email has not fundamentally changed the way social ties are created. The implications of this are that each of us has the potential to reach anyone through our very own network.

So what, you ask? In our social media and at times impersonal, society, it is inferred that relationships are not as important as before. In fact, the opposite is true. Technology has simply allowed us to link more easily, but the basis of those connections are personal contacts where two people are investing in a relationship.

If you take a moment to think about it, the implications are enormous, from both a personal and business perspective. Here is a real example of ignoring this principle. Not that long ago, CRG conducted a test email-marketing campaign to over 1 million individuals or organizations. We were told it was an opt-in list of people interested in resources similar to what CRG offers. We had no relationship with these people and that was reflected in our results. The response was less than one 10th of 1 percent.

On the other side of the coin, we recently partnered with one of our Associates to send proactive communications to individuals he knew personally; we received a 10% response to the same information. In a very noisy world, it is personal relationships, not mass media, that will get the best response.

Prior to writing this, we reviewed CRG’s current as well as new business relationships on which we are working. It surprised us to discover that over 80% of all our current or potential business is through our established network (referrals, repeat business, increased sales, etc.). We are proof that principles are not negotiable.

Most of us already knew this but sometimes we take it for granted, getting caught up in other seemly attractive strategies or we simply ignore the principle of Six Degrees of Separation in our intentions and line of attack.

Many authors will say that business is the main application of this truth. I beg to differ. Life is a holistic event and the principle of Six Degrees of Separation could be applied to all facets of our lives.

What about all the other parts of your life that require connections? You may be looking for the best music teacher for your child. Or perhaps a loved one has taken ill and you cannot access the latest medical treatments because of a lack of connections. Or you wish to travel and need local assistance in a foreign country or you want to meet a famous person but you have no direct contacts that can get you in front of him or her? Everyone you need or want to meet is simply six contacts away.

It really is an amazing principle; if truly embraced, it can help each of us understand that in the end, living life is about engaging relationships and connecting with others. Success in life is as simple as one contact away.

Action Steps

8 Steps to Embracing Six Degrees of Separation

  1. To benefit from the principle of Six Degrees of Separation, you must first acknowledge and accept the fact that almost every single person on this Earth is simply six contacts away from you.
  2. If you agree to item one, embrace and honor your current relationships because these contacts can and will lead you to what you need, want, and desire.
  3. Be intentional and clear about whom and what you are seeking. Foggy directions will lead you nowhere. Saying I want to meet a successful businessperson is not clear enough. The 5 Ws must be answered first.
  4. Be proactive. Nothing asked is nothing gained; things normally do not happen by accident. Have you ever wondered why, in TV police shows, they use statements like “Get the word out to the street that . . . ” Remember the principle of Six Degrees of Separation is one of equal opportunity and it works.
  5. Be integrity and use the process for authentic and honorable purposes.
  6. People want to help; don’t hold back because you think you are bothering them.
  7. Don’t prejudge or limit this principle, meaning no matter how small or seemly impossible the connection, Six Degrees is Six Degrees. The principle does not know that the person with whom you need to connect is famous; it just knows you are merely six contacts away.
  8. Finally on a lighter note . . . I have no idea how each of us Human Beings — 7 billion and counting ― can be simply six personal contacts away but it really doesn’t matter. Principles are to be acknowledged and respected. Embrace it and enjoy it.

Until next time, keep?Living On Purpose!

 

Ken Keis

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If You Can’t Sell, You Can’t Succeed http://www.mboc.com.cn/if-you-cant-sell-you-cant-succeed/ Fri, 30 Oct 2020 19:12:17 +0000 http://www.mboc.com.cn/?p=10605 It does not matter what position, role, or level of responsibility you have; you are involved in selling—whether or not you think you are. Every day you are selling and people are selling to you.

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If You Can’t Sell, You Can’t Succeed

Selling: to transfer property, services, ideas, or loyalty to another

Mention selling or sales to the majority of individuals and death seems a more attractive option. The ability to sell—if not the most important skill a person needs to succeed—is certainly in the top three.

Now before half the readers get defensive, let me explain.

Sales are the activity that breathes life into any economy, business, or venture. Take away sales and you have nothing. Yet the fear and loathing around selling results in more personal and business failures than any other single factor.

After a recent event where I presented, one of the participants wrote me a scathing email about the fact that I promoted (sold) products during the program. She said it was unethical to sell, promote, or market anything at an event and that she was going to report me to her association.

Wow! Obviously, selling had hit an emotional cord with her. But get this—the program I was conducting was on?How to Succeed in Marketing and Selling Yourself and Your Business. Oops! Maybe she thought she was attending another program.

It does not matter what position, role, or level of responsibility you have; you are involved in selling—whether or not you think you are. Every day you are selling and people are selling to you.

  • The doctor sells you on his/her recommended treatment.
  • You sell yourself in a job interview.
  • You sell your boss when you ask for a promotion or raise.
  • You are selling when you ask someone on a date or to marry you.
  • Your kids are always selling you the latest, greatest toy.
  • The politician sells you his/her platform to get your vote.
  • Your significant other sells to you when he or she wants to go on a holiday.
  • And on it goes.

Whether you like it or not, life is all about selling.

In reality, the word sales can be replaced with the word influence. When Brendon Bouchard did his research for his Habits book on the top six habits of high performers one of the six was the ability to “Influence”.

And he’s right. There’s no replacement or alternative to the skill of selling (influencing) unless, of course, it’s not important to you to achieve your goals, dreams, or aspirations.

There’s simply not enough space in this short blog to impart sales skills training. I will, however, outline where you need to start.

First, if you have an aversion to sales, selling, influencing and sales professionals, you need to find a way to liberate that belief system.

Unfortunately, many individuals associate “sales” with some sleazy, high-pressure salesman they have encountered. After my own successful sales career and as a sales trainer to the auto industry for over a decade, I understand that some sales professions have poor reputations.

Regrettably, some sales trainers still teach 101 ways to close the sale and how to deal with objections. They are way out of touch with what sales is really all about! They are repeating crusty, outdated junk from the 50s.

Please don’t buy into that mindset. Today’s sales professionals are a whole new breed. Our research shows that the top sales reps are excellent listeners—not smooth talkers.

Selling does not determine your character, values, or ethics. It is simply a skill set blended with confidence and emotions. It is critical to understand that as you go forward.?Sales skills?and the?character and ethics?of the individual who deploys them are two separate entities.

True sales success is always about building a relationship between or among parties where the interaction results in mutual benefits.

If by chance you are one of the many who loathe everything about selling, your journey will include overcoming that negative mindset. Until you upgrade your attitude, your success as an individual will be limited. If you are an entrepreneur, that state of mind will be disastrous for you!

  • Complete the?Sales Style Indicator?to better understand your strengths and weaknesses in the sales process.
  • Use the?Self Worth Inventory?to better understand how you can increase your confidence in five critical areas. Successful sales reps are confident individuals.

In the end, the skill of selling is critical to your success. Don’t let anyone say it isn’t—especially you!

Action Steps

If You Can’t Sell (Influence Others), You Can’t Succeed

  1. You must acknowledge the fact that selling is one of the most important skills you can acquire and deploy to be successful in any part of your life.
  2. What is your attitude toward sales, sales promotion, and sales professionals?
  3. Do you love selling? If not, why not? Document all your concerns in writing.
  4. What negative issues (if any) do you need to overcome to make sales a priority and acceptable to you?
  5. Forget what others think or say about sales. If they have a negative opinion about sales, they probably are not successful, especially in business.
  6. Avoid any sales training or advice that suggests you must be dishonest to succeed. The art of selling does not mean selling your soul and conducting yourself in an unethical manner. In fact, it is just the opposite.
  7. To be successful in any sales endeavor, you must love what you do and be passionate about what you are promoting. Our book and ecourse?The Quest For Purpose?can help you bring clarity to your life.
  8. To build your sales skills and confidence, complete the?Sales Style Indicator?and?Self Worth Inventory.
  9. To grow, link yourself with successful individuals who have high selling skills and who share your values and ethics.
  10. Commit to enhance and improve your selling/influencing skills, no matter your current level of skill or responsibility.
  11. Sales is about helping others and helping yourself, too. What could be more honorable than that?

Until next time, keep?Living On Purpose!.

 

Ken Keis

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Fasting Is Not Just For Food! http://www.mboc.com.cn/fasting-is-not-just-for-food/ Wed, 30 Sep 2020 20:59:04 +0000 http://www.mboc.com.cn/?p=10760 The post Fasting Is Not Just For Food! appeared first on CRG - Consulting Resource Group.

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Fasting Is Not Just For Food!

Fasting: To abstain from food; to eat sparingly or abstain from some foods; to abstain.

Chaos: A state of things in which chance is supreme; the inherent unpredictability in the behavior of a complex natural system; a state of utter confusion; a confused mass or mixture

Fasting Is Not Just For Food!

Do you ever feel overwhelmed by life and all that needs to get done?

Most people have experienced stress related to feeling inundated by information, responsibilities, or just life in general.

Well, help is at hand.

What is it?

The process of fasting.

We human beings can be creatures of habit and/or addiction. If they aren’t?purged on a regular basis, habits and addictions can become burdens—not benefits—to our lives. You may be feeling overwhelmed because of the choices you have made—and society will continue to add to your obligations if you let it.

Input from so many sources and the tasks that go with being a parent, partner, employee, volunteer can swamp even the most organized individual. That’s where fasting comes into play.

Food fasting has been used for centuries to cleanse the system of toxins and give the body a break from the constant demands of having to process food.

Research has confirmed there are as many psychological benefits to fasting as there are physical benefits. Recently, during my own food fast, my research into the fasting process revealed evidence that fasting can restore control.

If you fast successfully, you prove to yourself you can implement self-control over food; it no longer has control over you. You make the choice to change.

I fasted from food for two reasons:

  • On my way to my weight-loss goal, I had reached a plateau. I was stuck. I needed to get past that barrier.
  • I was aware of my reduced ability to back away from food I really didn`t need but certainly enjoyed. Food fasting may not be for everyone but it taught me I can say No.

Food is not the only fixation that can be the focus of a fast.

One of our consultants was working with a university student who was failing her grades. After a review of her schedule and her life, there was no question she was overwhelmed. As a result, her studies were suffering. Her life was so noisy that she had no peace.

The consultant counseled her to fast from all unnecessary input, including some favorite activities. Here is her list of changes.

  1. Stop watching all TV.
  2. Stop all online surfing except for course papers and research purposes.
  3. Fast from Facebook; block all incoming social media notifications.
  4. Completely cease listening to her online music unless she was studying at the same time. Remove those earbuds!
  5. Quit coffee; her caffeine intake was abusive.
  6. Check email only three times a day.

In just 2 weeks, this young woman went from frazzled to calm and peaceful. It was challenging at first, but she was counteracting an?addiction.

That’s our point. If you can’t stop checking your email every 3 seconds or Facebooking for hours a day, you are addicted. Those activities can contribute to stress-related illnesses and cause people to feel overloaded.

Whatever you can’t quit or reduce has control over?you, not the other way around.

If you don’t think you can get rid of the actions that are controlling you, you likely are hooked. It’s time to fast. Fasting can be an easy and effective solution.

My kids keep pestering me to put email on my iPhone but I refused for several years until I know I could manage not checking it every 2 minutes.

What has control over?you?

Read the Action Steps below and start your fast now!

Action Steps

Fasting Is Not Just For Food!

  • Is your life reflective of a calm, in-control, and peaceful existence . . . or something else?
  • What activities might have you hooked? TV, foods, social media (Facebook and others), music, gaming, texting, emailing . . . or something else?
  • Many of you are in denial. To prove my point, I want you to fast from something you must do every day or every week that is not essential to your existence. I am not talking about things like exercise; I mean activities whose absence will create no harm, like no TV.
  • Now take an Action Step and fast from something.
  • If it`s food, please seek professional advice from someone familiar with this process.
  • Pay attention to how this fasting makes you feel. Your emotions will reveal whether or not you were addicted.
  • When I conduct the 3-Day?CRG’s Professional Mastery & Assessment Certification?Workshop training event, I fast from all email messages. To stay focused and be able to give 100% to the program, I don’t check emails during the entire 3 days. It was not easy at first, but now it’s great to be free of that distraction during the sessions.
  • Help others fast from addictive behaviors.
  • Learn to say No to obligations and requests?before?you become overwhelmed.
  • Learn to relax and do deep breathing exercises to help with clarity and decrease stress.
  • Clarify your values and style using the?Values Preference Indicator?and?Personal Style Indicator?to help you make values-based decisions while playing to your strengths.
  • Delaying these Actions Steps won`t improve your situation. Acting?now?will.
    Just do it.

Until next time, keep?Living On Purpose!.

 

Ken Keis

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How Do You Respond to Your Circumstances? http://www.mboc.com.cn/how-do-you-respond-to-your-circumstances/ Mon, 24 Aug 2020 20:44:57 +0000 http://www.mboc.com.cn/?p=10600 It's not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters. The way we react and respond to our circumstances is the measure of ourselves as individuals.

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How Do You Respond to Your Circumstances?

Circumstance: a fact or event that must be considered with another fact or event; the surrounding conditions

How do you see your circumstances?

  • Do you let them control you and hinder your progress?
  • Do you see your circumstances as something to work with as you move forward?

Stuff gets in the way of our progress, goals, and desires. What’s my point??ALL?of us have that stuff.

The way we?react?and?respond?to our circumstances is the measure of ourselves as individuals.

I have been guilty of holding a private pity party during past circumstances. I have let circumstances influence my decisions and hold me down. How does self-pity improve a situation? It doesn’t..

Throughout history, great accomplishments have been achieved in spite of circumstances. If everything were easy to do, we wouldn’t use “great” and “accomplishment” together to describe a situation. Great accomplishments are so named because of the intensity of the circumstances and the ability of the individual to overcome them.

Would the following events be important to the world today if the circumstances had been altered?

Suppose?. . .

  • David had fought the Pipsqueak, not Goliath?
  • Sir Edmond Hillary had hiked up Mt. Everest easily, with his whole family along for the outing?
  • All Dr. Martin Luther King’s concerns about segregation were addressed immediately by everyone, without suffering or struggle?
  • Wilber and Orville Wright had quit flying following their first failed flight?

Real success seems reserved for those who move forward to their objective, in spite of very challenging circumstances. If that is true, we must take a closer look at our response to circumstances, rather than just the circumstances themselves.

In the book?Good to Great, research identified that the most successful companies and leaders did not deny their circumstances. In fact, they were brutally honest about their situation. With truth on the table, they sought the steps they needed to get where they wanted to go. They did not defer to their circumstances or wallow in their conditions.

The way you think and respond to your circumstances is EVERYTHING!

There are three categories to consider when responding to circumstances

  1. Time: Will this circumstance be with me forever or just for today?
  2. Extent: How far-reaching is this circumstance? Is it limited to this event or will it affect other parts of my life?
  3. Ownership: Who is at fault here or who can take credit for these events?

In his book?Learned Optimism, Dr. Martin Seligman conducted a 25-year study of successful individuals. He researched the language, thoughts, and responses of individuals to various circumstances. Seligman proved that the way you respond to both positive and negative events is a predictor—yes, a predictor—of your success in life.

Let me explain. When someone says the word “circumstances,” do you think of?positive?or?negative?circumstances? Most will think “negative.” Dr. Seligman’s research proved that the way you respond to positive circumstances influences your success level as much as your responses to negative circumstances. Here’s how that works.

  • How do you respond when something?positive?occurs in your life? Do you embrace it and own your success or discount it and make statements like this?
    1. Oh, I was just lucky.
    2. That usually never happens to me.
    3. I can’t take credit for this success.
  • How do you respond when something?negative?happens in your life? Do you use any of the following statements?
    1. I never have any luck.
    2. That always happens to me.
    3. I’m insecure and I’m not smart enough to succeed.

Can you relate to any of the above responses? Each takes a pessimistic view of the circumstance. Do you know someone who usually responds to circumstances in a pessimistic way? Is that person energized and full of life or does he or she usually feel drained and depressed? We all know the answer to that question. If our responses highly influence our success and fulfillment in life, why do so many people take the low road? It may be that they simply don’t understand their responses are creating their reality or they don’t know they have a choice.

  • Circumstances happen to all of us—that’s a given.
  • How we think and respond to circumstances is our choice.

Here’s an interesting twist: Optimistic individuals respond to positive and negative circumstances in the opposite way from pessimistic people.

The Pessimist

Response to a negative event:

It is my fault. This will go on forever and taint the events in the rest of my life.

Response to a positive event:

This success will be short-lived or temporary. It applies to this event only. Other people or outside forces caused this circumstance.

The Optimist

Response to a negative event:

It’s not my fault. This situation is short-lived and applies only to this specific event.

Response to a positive event:

This success will be ongoing. It is reflective of the positive situations that are happening in my whole life. I take ownership or credit for this success.

A major caution!

This does not give people license to refuse to take responsibility for the negative events they create, such as a drunk driver who hurts someone, an engineer whose miscalculation results in a structural failure, or an accountant who misrepresents the truth in accounting practices, which results in fraud. Those outcomes cannot be classified as optimistic responses to circumstances; they are character and integrity issues.

How do you respond to your circumstances?

Do you own your successes and limit your failures? Or do you limit your successes and blame yourself for your failures? To help you understand the way you frame events and circumstances in your life, I recommend a couple of resources.

Remember: No matter the circumstance, you always have a choice about the way you will respond. It might not seem easy at the beginning, but the results will be worth it.

It is the way we react to circumstances that determines our feelings.

Dale Carnegie

Action Steps

How Do You Respond to Your Circumstances?

  1. It’s not what happens to you but how you respond to your circumstances that makes the big difference.
  2. Blaming others for your circumstances has no productive value. Do you blame others? Do you ever hold a pity party? How will that help improve your circumstances?
  3. The way you respond to positive circumstances is as important in your life as the way you respond to negative circumstances.
  4. Do you take responsibility for the way you respond to both positive and negative circumstances?
  5. When something positive happens, a successful person projects the victory into the future, takes ownership of the success, and transfers it to other areas of his or her life. Think about how you react to positive events. What do you do?
  6. When something negative occurs, a successful individual sees it as a one-off event, specific only to that circumstance. He or she does not count it as a personal achievement. Think about how you react to negative events. What do you do?
  7. Based on your responses, start training yourself to respond in a more optimistic way. (Sorry if you were thinking that your circumstances had little to do with your responses.)
  8. Take the?PSI?and?VPI?to help determine the way you respond to given situations and to identify ways to improve.
  9. Your circumstances don’t control you. Your future is influenced by your?reaction to your circumstances.
  10. Remember: Whatever your current condition, you can turn it into a positive experience. After all, it’s your choice.

Until next time, keep?Living On Purpose!.

 

Ken Keis

Coming soon new Wellness eCourse!

Dying To Live: Breakthrough Stress Reduction & Wellness Strategies

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The Power of Focus http://www.mboc.com.cn/the-power-of-focus/ Tue, 18 Aug 2020 21:15:25 +0000 http://www.mboc.com.cn/?p=10581 Does your mind ever race with all you have to do, Focus is the single most beneficial strategy and habit I have learned, implemented and wholly embraced in the past several years

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The Power of Focus

Focus: a central point, of attraction, attention, or activity.

Does your mind ever race with all you have to do—not only today, but also this week, month, or year? How do you feel when the obligations and opportunities far outweigh your capacity to respond to them? Tired, weary, drained?

If you are frantically trying to pursue everything but feel like you are completing little or nothing, you are not alone.

It seems a high percentage of individuals lack a particular, but major, characteristic―focus. Today, with unlimited opportunities and continual communications from multiple sources, it is easy for life to become a constant distraction.

Focus is the single most beneficial strategy and habit I have learned, implemented and wholly embraced in the past several years. Many years ago, I was trying to manage no less than seven different business ventures at the same time. Crazy, I know, but I mistakenly believed that if I did not have all those choices, I would become bored.

Of course, the outcome was lack of focus and limited success. This is not to say that individuals can’t have multiple interests. But if you are required to run and lead them all, that’s a recipe for disaster.

Since purchasing CRG, I have sold or divested my interests in every other business venture except for real estate investing. Now that I am completely living?on purpose, I have discovered more than enough variety and flexibility within CRG to meet all my needs—and more.

Staying focused within one venture is important. Think about the sports world. How many multi-sport superstars come to mind? Probably not many! Michael Jordan tried to switch to baseball—no luck. Bo Jackson, a gifted athlete, tried to play both football and baseball and ended up with hip replacements before the age of 30.

Successful playing-coaches are just as rare. Can you focus on playing and coaching at the same time?

Recent research confirms that a wandering mind is an unhappy mind.

Distractions, or lack of focus, makes you unhappy! Life can become a series of unfocused distractions if you let it. All of us are constantly being lured by other possibilities. The way you respond to this noise will determine your level of success (focus).

So, how do you achieve focus?

  1. Know where you are going.
    If you don’t, you can easily be moved off course. Once I acknowledged I could have all the variety I needed within CRG, I began the process of focus. One at a time, over a period of a year, I removed all other distractions.?
  2. Have a plan.?
    Know where you are going and how you plan to get there.
  3. Keep your own counsel.?
    Everyone will have an opinion about what you should do and how you should live your life to be successful. But there is only one person who knows what’s best for you—and that’s you.
  4. Stay calm.?
    When training to become a licensed scuba diver, I learned that the easiest way to die underwater is to panic. The result of panic is usually poor decisions. Keep your wits about you; think through each of your options.
  5. Be clear about your core values.?
    All your decisions should be ranked against your core values. Be clear about them and hold them dear, as if your life depended on it. One way to clarify your core values is to complete the?Values Preference Indicator.
  6. Learn to say no―and feel good about it.?
    Too many times, guilt and the demands of others get us off focus. Stay true to your course.
  7. Play to your strengths; build a team around your weaknesses.?
    Especially in small business, many of us try to do it all. How can you be focused if you are doing everything? And how many of us are fully competent and gifted at everything?
  8. Create a process where you focus only on the current project and forget the rest.?
    A major hindrance to focus is trying to keep all your activities listed in your head. Set up a tracking system that works for you. It must be written down somewhere, other than that virtual place called your brain.
  9. Let go of the past and what was.?
    I had to let go of the assumption that I needed seven businesses to feel fulfilled. I now understand how wrong I was in that premise. Quite honestly, once the last business was sold, I never felt more energized. A weight had been lifted off my shoulders.
  10. Get going.?
    Focus requires action. There is usually an inverse proportion between how much something is on your mind and how much your mind is getting done.

Almost all of the most famous successful people of the world had focus: Shakespeare, Martin Luther King, Mother Teresa, Wayne Gretzky, Stephen King, Walt Disney and so on. They are not known for hundreds of different accomplishments but for one focus. Focus is very powerful and invigorating. I hope you, too, can experience the freedom and power that comes from this level of focus.

Action Steps

The Power of Focus

1. Know where you are going.

2. Have a plan to get you there.

3. Stay calm. Nothing good comes out of being frantic.

4. Know your core values and start making decisions based on your values. Take the?Values Preference Indicator?to help you or consider the full eCourse, “What Do You Really Value?”?http://www.mboc.com.cn/what-do-you-really-value/

5. Start letting go of all activities that are not part of your plan or direction.

6. Say “no” to new opportunities and ventures that don’t align with your focus.

7. Play to your strengths and build a team to fill your weaknesses. Take the?Personal Style Indicator?to confirm your strengths.

8. Set up a system in writing to track your projects; you can’t stay focused without it. Don’t try to operate out of your head.

9. Notice the vigor that focus brings into your life.

10. And, of course, have fun and encourage others to do the same—which is focus.

Until next time, keep?Living On Purpose!

Ken Keis

 

 

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The Gift of Giving! http://www.mboc.com.cn/the-gift-of-giving/ Tue, 18 Aug 2020 17:00:35 +0000 http://www.mboc.com.cn/?p=11255 Would our world be a better place if everyone embraced the act of giving? You bet! Giving is one of the great paradoxes in life—the more you give, the more you receive. We don't give to get, but the outcome of giving is receiving.

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The Gift of Giving!

Give: To make a present of; to grant or bestow by formal action; to put into the possession of another for his or her use; to commit to another as a trust or responsibility and usually for an expressed reason; to transfer from one’s authority or custody to execute and deliver; to convey to another; to offer to the action of another

Are You a Giver or Taker?

Would our world be a better place if everyone embraced the act of giving?
You bet!
Giving is one of the great paradoxes in life—the more you give, the more you receive.

We don’t give to get, but the outcome of giving is receiving.

Here’s a quote that outlines the truth of the matter.

You can cling to what you have and lose it all, or you can give freely and become wealthy. Generosity brings wealth and satisfaction. One can be rich and not satisfied. Generosity brings true wealth—not only the monetary kind, but the wealth that comes from connections with others. If you want to be wealthy, give freely! Refresh others and your own soul will be refreshed.

Diane Eble?
Author of?Abundant Gifts

Everyone can participate in the act of?giving, no matter your condition or situation.

Sometimes I think our society models selfishness and status as being important, but giving is the ultimate equalizer of soul and spirit. Imagine, if you will, two individuals volunteering to serve meals at a homeless shelter. One is a wealthy and prominent civic leader. The other is on social assistance. Does anyone care about their background, education, or bank balance? No. Their contribution at the shelter is all about the act of giving.

People who do?not?have a generous spirit are described as selfish and miserly. Who wants to be characterized like that?!

  • Giving is an?action?word. Giving rarely occurs by accident, although moments of spontaneous giving can and do happen.
  • Generosity is a mindset where you actively seek opportunities to give.

The statement?it’s better to give than receive?has been proven by researchers—the act of giving improves your well-being and health. When you give, your brainwave activity is similar to the high that cocaine users experience. Your overall happiness improves when you give.

Almost without exception, the givers in a research project strongly believed they received more benefits from their act of giving than did the recipients. Prior to participating in this research project, the participants were not givers. All agreed afterward that they would no longer hoard their gifts, talents, and resources.

Giving doesn’t have to be complicated. It can be as simple as offering a compliment, a thank you, or a few words of appreciation.

Our family is blessed with individuals who model generosity on a daily basis. They have not only directly impacted the people receiving the gifts, they have encouraged our entire family—kids included—and others around us to do the same.

  • Recently, when I was at the pay-window of Tim Horton’s Drive-Thru, the attendant told me my coffee had already been paid for by the person in the car in front of me. At that moment, I felt a positive rush—which prompted me to pay for the order of the people in the car behind me! Paying it forward works.
  • My father was never verbal about his love for his kids. I later realized that was part of his generation and his Eastern European roots. Yet I cannot recall a single time when my father refused to help us when we asked and he never denied us the use of his wonderful shop full of tools!
  • A few years ago, a local church did an extreme makeover on an entire house. It involved 8 days, 200 volunteers, and $120,000 worth of improvements. The single mom with four children had been unable to maintain her home and it got into terrible disrepair. The news anchor was on the verge of tears as he aired the story. We are all positively affected by generosity.
  • Adam Grant in his best-selling book?Give and Take?proved through long term research that giving to others – in supportive and helpful ways comes back to you with numerous benefits and drives your success. He also confirmed that even though “takers” seem to get ahead initially people quickly figure that out and their “taking” nature over time catches up with them.

The message this week is simple.

  • Be a person of a generous spirit.
  • Not only will you impact other people’s lives, you too will be positively affected.?

To help you on your journey of winning, I recommend my latest book?The Quest For Purpose, which will take you on a personal discovery that will assist you in confirming and affirming your?purpose?and passions in life.

As building blocks, I also suggest the?Values Preference Indicator?and the?Personal Style Indicator.

Follow these?Action Steps?and complete the recommended resources, to help you increase your impact with others.

This Week’s Action Steps

The Gift of Giving!

  1. Would others call you generous? If not, why not?
  2. Take a moment to think of all the ways you have helped people and the times you have been generous. How did that make the recipient feel? How did you feel?
  3. I want to personally challenge every person reading this newsletter?to turn up your giving a notch?this very week. Adjust your mindset to be open to all opportunities as they arise.
  4. Giving comes in many forms—time, expertise, resources, encouragement, compliments, and other ways. Now list or at least think about new ways you can be generous this week.
  5. If you have already achieved success with Action Step 4 above, how did it make everybody feel?
  6. Your generosity should play to your strengths, gifts, and talents. I volunteer as an MC for several community events. I love to do it and it fills their need. My brother-in-law, on the other hand, helps people repair their cars. Each of us has a unique role to play.
  7. Generosity from the core of your being is impactful. To help you get clearer on your?purpose?or calling, I encourage you to engage the process outlined step-by-step in my book?The Quest For Purpose.
  8. Benchmark your gifts, talents, and preferences with the following assessments. Your results will assist you to make better decisions—with confidence and clarity. As part of the clarification process, we recommend four specific assessments.
  9. Today, let us all be more generous and enjoy the feel-good benefits of giving!
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Until next time, keep Living On Purpose!

 

Ken Keis

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